For some reason, both in the media and everyday life, the phenomenon of a “midlife crisis in men” is often mentioned more frequently. It is considered almost inevitable for men to engage in self-reflection, reassess their values, and even leave seemingly stable families as a natural outcome of this phase. However, the analogous psychological period in women is often dismissed as a mere whim preceding menopause, so convincingly that many of us come to believe it. In this article, we aim to debunk this notion and emphasize that women’s crises require no less, and sometimes even greater, understanding and support than men’s.
Changes in Appearance During a Midlife Crisis
One of the first reasons for a midlife crisis among women is the inevitable changes in appearance that come with age. Starting around the age of 30-35, fine lines appear, the face loses its firmness, and puffiness becomes a frequent morning companion. The youthful glow fades, and the sparkle in the eyes dims. This leads to feelings of depression and even near-suicidal thoughts, which only worsen one’s appearance by adding a strained, pleading expression that silently demands, “Compliment me! Reassure me!” Her character may change significantly, requiring her family to constantly affirm her uniqueness.
Today, every woman with access to the internet, fashion magazines, or television knows the rules and techniques to preserve and enhance beauty. However, not everyone follows them, leading to frustration when looking in the mirror.
Around the ages of 35-40, hormonal and physical changes occur. Metabolism slows, and muscle mass decreases while body fat increases. This often leads to unnoticed weight gain despite maintaining the same lifestyle and diet. To prevent this, it’s essential to adjust one’s diet and increase physical activity. This helps preserve not only the body’s shape but also the contours of the face and neck.
For facial care, it’s crucial to get enough sleep, consume natural foods, and utilize both natural and cosmetic skincare products. And most importantly: a woman’s attractiveness primarily depends on how she feels about herself. If she believes she’s becoming undesirable, it will manifest in her demeanor. Conversely, a confident, lively woman will always attract attention, regardless of her age.
Achievements During a Midlife Crisis
Beyond physical concerns, many women worry about what they’ve accomplished in life, often feeling they’ve fallen short of their goals. They may feel dissatisfied with their careers, income, or education, exacerbated by the increasing preference for younger professionals.
These thoughts can lead to a crisis, but engaging in new hobbies or activities can help. Whether it’s learning a new skill, changing careers, or adopting a child, channeling this energy into something meaningful can provide a sense of fulfillment.
Family Dynamics During a Midlife Crisis
Family members may struggle to understand the changes in a woman’s behavior during her crisis. This often leads to misunderstandings and conflicts that can strain or even end relationships. If the woman is single, feelings of loneliness may intensify.
To avoid turning a midlife crisis into a family crisis, it’s important to communicate openly. Share your feelings with loved ones, express your concerns, and seek their understanding.
General Recommendations During a Midlife Crisis
If you catch yourself having doubts about your life’s purpose, focus on what you can still achieve rather than dwelling on past regrets. Avoid thinking in terms of what you “haven’t” done and instead embrace opportunities for growth. Best wishes and positive thoughts!
